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The beginning of a new relationship is often looked upon as the most electric and dizzying; a time when all you can think about is the awesome woman in your life. Although it may feel like you can do no wrong during those first few months of being together, there are some things you have to avoid like the plague.
Certain topics are very delicate at this point, and if you come on too strong, your girlfriend may take it as a warning sign that you’re looking too far ahead. Go with the flow, live in the moment and take a look at the following tips that will help your relationship move along swimmingly.
1. Do NOT Rush:
While physical attraction was probably what gave you the courage (or motivation) to initiate a conversation with your woman in the first place, it is important that you show her that sex need not come first. If you want to make this relationship a serious one, don’t think of sex as a top priority. This is a great move on your part, as you are showing her how smitten you are with her mind .
Be patient, establish the strong bond you are yearning for and the rest will fall into place. Holding off on what your libido is telling you will pay off in spades in the long run.
2. Appreciate:
It is quite easy to slip into a comfort zone once you start settling into a “couple’s routine,” but the worst thing a man can do is take his girlfriend for granted. Treating her as a long-time wife in a dull marriage is not the way to go. If this is already happening, then you have contributed to your own downfall, as she is probably feeling unwanted and unappreciated.
No good can come from making her feel like baggage and letting yourself naïvely think she’ll always be there for you. Remember how lucky you are to be with such a woman and tell her things that will make her feel special.
3. Plan for the Future:
It is imperative not to get into a pattern of buying your way into her heart. You may have purchased a tasteful gift in the early stages of dating, but now that you both feel there is a future together, it’s time to put away the plastic every time you see some nice jewelry.
In addition to that, you’re actually wasting your money, spending it irresponsibly on her instead of saving up for something extremely significant — like your future. If you make sound decisions about what to get her at opportune times, the presents will mean more to her and will leave less of a dent in your bank account. Neglect showering her with presents early on so that she doesn’t get used to the “princess” treatment.
P.S I know some girls will not like this one neither do I. But its important.
4. Let Her Explore You:
It is true that you should be yourself around your girlfriend, but remember to hold off on displaying different facets of your personality until the right time. If you’re a great cook, knowledgeable art lover and even a handyman around the house, don’t let her know of your skills all at once.
One by one, when the need arises, reveal the things you know she’ll love about you. In doing so, you compound her already growing love for you and offer fresh qualities for her to appreciate. By showing off too much initially, you leave little to liven the relationship later on.
5. Don’t Jump To Family Time:
Taking a new girlfriend to a family gathering the first few months into dating can often be misconstrued as too serious a move. Although you love your parents and quirky Uncle, it is best to introduce your family at a time when she’ll easily understand your motives and be able to put up with some uncomfortable questions from a rude grandfather.
Early on, her feelers are busy enough trying to establish if you are “the one”; throwing family into the mix is simply too much too soon. Of course, don’t shy away from mentioning your love for them and the fact that your mother will adore her, but keep it at that until the time is right.
6. Be Yourself:
You might feel the need to always pour on the charm in her presence, but this is actually the wrong vibe to emit. Sooner or later, she’ll realize the phoniness of your actions — your girlfriend wants you , not an actor. By being “super romantic man” all the time, the originality and shock value that special nights should provide will be non-existent.
Once in a while, surprising her with a candlelight dinner or some flowers will score big points, but pick your situations carefully and spread them out. Let her know that you do in fact have a romantic side, but tone it down and let little daily actions bear more importance than big productions.
7. Accept Her The Way She Is:
The last thing you want to do at the beginning of a budding relationship is put her down. More than any other time, it is in the first stages that you should be open-minded and accepting of her ways and habits. That is not to say that you should constantly give her a piece of your mind once you’ve settled in with her. It’s important to keep in mind that you are walking on thin ice the first couple of months, and if you judge her immediately and frequently, she’ll be out the door in no time.
Hold your tongue, be understanding and be careful with your words so as not to hurt her. Some would say there is no right time to express your opinion negatively when a relationship starts, but if you feel a strong need to do so, make your comment a mere suggestion and not an insult. Instead of “That dress is ugly,” say “I preferred the beautiful black one you wore on the first day we met.”
Note: Her annoying habit of asking you a lot of questions is one thing, but her extremely possessive behavior is another. If there’s a serious issue at hand, it’s a good idea to let your new lady know before things get out of hand.
8. Be Honest:
A fundamental issue that is essential in any flourishing relationship is honesty. Telling lies or omitting pertinent things about yourself, will only lead to problems later on. Laying your habits — and everything else that makes you tick — out on the table is the only way to start a relationship you hope will last a long time.
Of course, sometimes little white lies cannot be avoided, but remember the bottom line: Don’t lie about important things. No good can come from saying you come from a rich family when in fact you don’t.
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